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Table of Contents 1. Alternative Relationships 1.1. External resources: 1.2. Books: 2. Kink Relationships 2.1. External resources: 3. Consent is Key! |
Alternative Relationships
Are you in a polyamorous relationship and having issues with managing time, money, kids, communication, or insecurities? Maybe you have tried therapy and cannot find a therapist without having to “educate” them on the lifestyle.
Perhaps you are in a relationship where your partner wants to try to be “open” but you aren’t sure…or the other way around?
Maybe you are swinging and experienced trauma because of the lifestyle, or more commonly because some people do not understand it well enough to respect boundaries.
Perhaps you are in a relationship where your partner wants to try to be “open” but you aren’t sure…or the other way around?
Maybe you are swinging and experienced trauma because of the lifestyle, or more commonly because some people do not understand it well enough to respect boundaries.
Or, it could be that you just want to learn more about if you might be polyamorous or something close to it, and need to explore that piece of your Romantic Orientation. Look below for some common romantic and relational orientations. Some people feel this is who they have been all along, and cannot change, while others feel it is a lifestyle that suits them. Either way, there is something for everyone! If yours is not on our list, contact us and let us know.
Relational Orientation
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Romantic Orientation
- Heteroromantic
- Biromantic
- Homoromantic
- Panromantic
- Polyromantic
- Skoliomantic
- Sapiomantic
- Aromantic
- Demiromantic
Check out Dr. Tiffany's Podcast about Polyamory in the video below!
We can help!
We have plenty of services to choose from, all of which are inclusive for the poly and kink communities!
Whether you are in a throuple or triad…
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a quad…
or any other type of non-monogamous relationship…
we have had experience and can provide an educated and non-judgmental environment. We will not question your relationship choice if it is consensual, and will not try to talk you into monogamy. Click here to start seeing someone who understands!
External resources:
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) is a great resource for people in alternative relationships or getting into the lifestyle! See some of their resources or visit their website:
https://ncsfreedom.org/resource-library/
You can also check out our listing on NCSF HERE.
Check out Loving More’s mission HERE.
UUPA has as its mission to serve the Unitarian Universalist Association and the community of polyamorous people within and outside the UUA by providing support, promoting education, and encouraging spiritual wholeness regarding polyamory. Visit their website HERE.
If you would like a directory of services offered in Arizona by Kink aware professionals, from lawyers to massage therapists to life coaches and more, this directory has plenty to choose from.
https://ncsfreedom.org/resource-library/
You can also check out our listing on NCSF HERE.
Check out Loving More’s mission HERE.
UUPA has as its mission to serve the Unitarian Universalist Association and the community of polyamorous people within and outside the UUA by providing support, promoting education, and encouraging spiritual wholeness regarding polyamory. Visit their website HERE.
If you would like a directory of services offered in Arizona by Kink aware professionals, from lawyers to massage therapists to life coaches and more, this directory has plenty to choose from.
For more information on how we can help the kink community click here or scroll down.
Get started, before you get started with this: How to Make It Work – Tools for Healthy Polyamorous Relationships http://www.polyamorysociety.org/tools.html
Local Poly Resources:
http://www.polyamory.org/SF/groups.html
Places to meet others interested in ethical non-monogamy:
OKCupid has a section to narrow down to ethical non-monogamy so you will not get results of people who are only looking for a monogamous relationship. You can even connect your current partner(s) to your profile!
Plenty of Fish is used throughout the community to find one another and plenty of people in Arizona have had luck here, maybe you will too.
Beyond Two is more difficult for the smaller cities in Arizona, but is nice because only people looking for non-monogamy go here.
If you are looking for your community more than anything else, others who understand look for local Facebook groups (possibly) near you or check out Meetups once Covid-19 is no longer shutting down our get together.
Local Poly Resources:
http://www.polyamory.org/SF/groups.html
Places to meet others interested in ethical non-monogamy:
OKCupid has a section to narrow down to ethical non-monogamy so you will not get results of people who are only looking for a monogamous relationship. You can even connect your current partner(s) to your profile!
Plenty of Fish is used throughout the community to find one another and plenty of people in Arizona have had luck here, maybe you will too.
Beyond Two is more difficult for the smaller cities in Arizona, but is nice because only people looking for non-monogamy go here.
If you are looking for your community more than anything else, others who understand look for local Facebook groups (possibly) near you or check out Meetups once Covid-19 is no longer shutting down our get together.
Books:
Here are some books you can buy and read while you wait for your first session if you are coming for non-monogamy (scroll down for kink info):
https://www.amazon.com/More-Than-Two-Practical-Polyamory-ebook/dp/B01DQ20WZQ/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=more+than+two&qid=1599206432&s=digital-text&sr=1-1
https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships-ebook/dp/B01N0SA1YW/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+ethical+slut&qid=1599206387&s=digital-text&sr=1-1
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07H46BBC7/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
https://www.amazon.com/When-Someone-Love-Polyamorous-Understanding-ebook/dp/B01E0L4CQM
https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Girls-Guide-Polyamory-Relationships-ebook/dp/B01LXZ6F7T/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
https://www.amazon.com/Eight-Things-Known-About-Polyamory-ebook/dp/B00JY2PLI6/ref=pd_sim_351_4/132-3480929-8652916?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B00JY2PLI6&pd_rd_r=2c1f8925-013b-4a6d-9053-d67e07ba070c&pd_rd_w=9wGZa&pd_rd_wg=KaeSQ&pf_rd_p=50fdecc9-bf07-4d35-ad07-39e73888f6b9&pf_rd_r=V1YAHXZW5PTVF2SEACP7&psc=1&refRID=V1YAHXZW5PTVF2SEACP7
(CHANGE AZ has no affiliation with these books, Amazon, websites, or the authors in any way and is simply providing resources for education purposes).
Kink Relationships
Are you here because you want to spice up your sex life and are part of the half of the population who has an interest in, or already partakes in kink and fetishes?
Is it difficult finding a therapist who you don’t have to explain yourself, or whose eyes don’t go wide when you tell what you would like to do, or what you are already doing in the bedroom?
Perhaps your partner wants to be kinky but you don’t, or vice-versa?
Maybe you are interested in learning more and would like to be safe about it, mentally and physically.
Or maybe you have tried but keep finding yourself in situations where the play partner(s) is/are not listening to your boundaries and you have been hurt (physically/mentally/sexually).
We can help you stay safe and have fun!
Is it difficult finding a therapist who you don’t have to explain yourself, or whose eyes don’t go wide when you tell what you would like to do, or what you are already doing in the bedroom?
Perhaps your partner wants to be kinky but you don’t, or vice-versa?
Maybe you are interested in learning more and would like to be safe about it, mentally and physically.
Or maybe you have tried but keep finding yourself in situations where the play partner(s) is/are not listening to your boundaries and you have been hurt (physically/mentally/sexually).
We can help you stay safe and have fun!
External resources:
If you are not sure what some of the terms mean, here is a list of some of the most basic categories (though there are MANY more)
- BDSM. When most people think of kinky sex, they think of BDSM, a four-letter acronym that stands for six different things: Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. BDSM includes an extremely wide range of activities, from light paddle spanking and dominant/submissive role-playing to bondage parties and pain play.
- Fantasy and role-playing. One of the most common forms of kinky sex involves creating imagined scenarios. This could be as simple as talking about a fantasy in bed, to as complex as wearing costumes or acting out scenes in front of strangers.
- Fetishes. One out of four men and women are interested in fetish play, defined as treating a nonsexual object or body part sexually. Common fetishes include the feet and shoes, leather or rubber, and diaper play (yes).
- Voyeurism or exhibitionism. Watching someone undress or watching a couple have sex without their knowledge are common voyeur fantasies, while having sex in a public place is one form of exhibitionism. Both are surprisingly common (and kinky) — 35 percent of adults surveyed were interested in voyeurism.
- Group sex. Threesomes, sex parties, orgies, and more — group sex is any act that involves more than two people. Ten percent of women Trusted Source and 18 percent of men have participated in group sex, while even higher percentages voiced interest in the idea.
Consent is Key!Risk Profiles can keep you out of danger and even save lives! Check this out. We would add a book list, however there are SO many types of kink, how about you click me and we can get started, then get you those book recommendations ASAP based on what your specific needs are. If you really can’t wait, here is a list of some basic ones. If you didn’t see it above, check out Learn More About the NCSF. |